You Don’t Have to Feel Amicable to Have an Amicable Divorce

Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, founder of the Amicable Divorce Network, shares her insights on what truly makes a divorce amicable in the Divorce Coaches Academy podcast. She challenges the common belief that an amicable divorce simply means the couple is getting along without conflict. Instead, Tracy emphasizes that it’s the mindset of the professionals involved that determines the amicability of the process.

Tracy discusses the concept of “moral injury”—the emotional and psychological harm caused when one’s actions conflict with their personal values—which is driving many family law attorneys to leave litigation behind. These professionals seek to align their work with their values, focusing on resolution rather than conflict.

“There is a huge misconception that the couple is amicable, and they are not – the professionals are amicable. Many people think they need someone who will fight for them and be the bulldog, but after 22 years of experience, I can tell you that is like setting your money on fire and choosing to damage your family. Seeking emotional justice in the court system is just wasting your money and time.“

-Tracy Ann Moore-Grant, founder of the Amicable Divorce Network and partner of Georgia family law firm Patterson Moore Butler

Choosing professionals who prioritize resolution can save clients significant time, money, and emotional energy. Tracy highlights that relying on adversarial attorneys or judges to make decisions is an expensive path that often leads to unwanted outcomes.

Ultimately, the professionals you choose to work with greatly influence your divorce process’s cost, conflict level, and overall experience—so choose wisely.

Listen to the full podcast here.